Ignore the Guy, Get the Guy - The Art of No Contact: A Woman's Survival Guide to Mastering a Breakup and Taking Back Her Power

Ladies, I had to come back to this and was compelled to say that you and any woman in your life NEED THIS BOOK to calm the crazy at the point of break up (and even before, if you see or feel it coming... I wish I had this information well before that point.) This book is the BREAK UP BIBLE, and you need to read this over and over, and take it with you. (And I will reiterate... DANG, I wish I had this book earlier in the game!) Even if you don't want to "get the guy" (and there's a HUGE chance you won't even want him back after THIS!) I can personally attest that the information here will help you TAKE YOUR POWER BACK, and help GET YOU BACK to the woman YOU KNOW YOU REALLY ARE with minimal dents and scrapes... and embarrassment over people in your circle thinking you are losing your grip (hint: posting a lot of that "self-help" and positive affirmation stuff on FB can be a dead giveaway!) I was impressed with her social media tips, and followed them myself to a "t", to the point that the only ones who knew about my devastating and painful breakup were my immediate family members and close friends. GET THIS BOOK... Get it for yourself, get it for your daughters, friends, cousins, the woman who cries in the bathroom at work (anonymously... stash it in her desk!) it's an under $10 click of sanity, and the information is a lifesaver the sooner they receive it. "The Art of NO CONTACT" is a GEM that every living breathing woman today (both dating and married) should know, and BRAVO to Leslie Braswell... YOU NAILED IT!

l read it last 2 days when guy was being "difficult"! ehem!! stood my ground on 2 issues where he was trying to get away with very disrespectful behaviour towards me. l didn't answer phone or reply to texts.. within 48 hours he is a totally changed man- calm, agreeing to give me what l want, acting like an adult not a child, acting like an adult and not a Narcissist, self aware.. caus he knows from experience that l will stay strong - strong enough to walk away at times like this- so like she says- if you've been a desperate wreck in the past- its not too late to change- change now! you have your own life.. take time out to cultivate it- and don't chop off your limbs for anyone- ! The author talks you through it very gently and affirmingly.. if you are in a lot of pain please read this- it launches straight in- as you are not going to want an academic treatise when you are so upset- the kindle price is nothing so l highly recommend if a guy is treating you badly or dumping you. Even for ongoing good relationships it is helpful to be able to communicate that you will stand your ground- which requires inner strength- what she is talking about.

Wise advice. I think every girl and woman should read this. Its very simple and the message given is repetitive: ignore the guy when hes playing with you. If he really loves you, he'd jump through hoops to win you back. Something I think every woman has struggled with. If I have a daughter one day, I would want her to read this before she fell in love. It reinforces the whole respect thing, and anything less isnt worth your time. I remember justifying everything that my ex did because I didnt KNOW BETTER. No one talked to me about love. Only that guys want one thing.... can you elaborate please? Lol. It was only after the breakout that I really understood love, and the whole "game." If only i read this book sooner. It wouldnt have changed anything but it would have gave me a little more closure and saved me a year of agony. I'm still learning... and it is upsetting because it does go against who I am as a woman. But i do think this book is very helpful for those who are going through a breakup and need mental clarity. And for those who have yet to experience love. Guys will deny that they do this, but I think whether they know conciously or subconciously, more often than not, they do run. I'm no love expert but many guys have done the whole cutting off contact without a reason to me. So It must mean its true with most men. Its like they think of a reason and forget to tell you or they downplay it and say their busy but still wait for them. And just cut ties. Lol. The book covers a little on that. Men are simple.. if they want you they want you. If they are giving a lame excuse.. maybe they aren't worth your time and you shouldn't put their needs above yours.. They are just aholes who can't be honest about what they want, and would rather run away then see the expression on that girl's face when they break their heart. I wish there was a little more to the book. It does cover the whole no contact thing but maybe a little more would be nice. Reason for the 4 stars, the english used is not the best. She does get her point across though. Im not a grammar nazi but I mean it's a book.. I'd expect like perfect grammar. In fact, I don't think I've ever encountered a book that needed any correcting. But there are some run on sentences, lack of commas, and sentences that need to be rephrased, and some plural words that should be singular. Its like she didn't revise what she wrote before she got it printed... its not every sentence, but it happens frequently throughout the book.

I rarely write reviews (for anything), but I am so grateful for this book, and want to encourage any woman who is in need of an immediate action plan to pull herself together. I do think that the title is slightly misleading, or at least too narrow. I'd call it "Ignore the Guy, Get Your Life Back, and Choose if You Want the Guy Back (After He Stops Begging)" -- because, that's how it works. Ladies, put your phones down and read this book. This book is a quick and easy read -- that's the beauty of it! (Who has time to read a long self-help book, when all you want to do is text him nooooow?!) It does not bombard readers with case studies or profiles of the different types of ex-boyfriends. There are other great books out there that get into that detail (I know, because I've read them... all), but Ignore the Guy, Get the Guy gives straightforward, yet still sensitive, advice to step back and regain control of your life and understand men with some clarity. Heartache was making me physically ill, but this book was the quick dose of logic that I needed to start healing with self-respect... and ultimately, yes, get the guy.

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Take the man off the pedestal and stop feeding your delulu, when a woman has her life together, she is more likely to attract a man who adds to her life than to give from her own wallet. No man crying is worthless but if he is focused on God, God can make him better. This book was great to highlight the do’s and don’t’s for your own behaviour and to dump your thoughts into the hypothetical trash bin. Action in a ladies life is more valuable than allowing disrespect to continue. Love this book and I am glad I ordered it to talk myself back to my mission.

Te recuerda valorarte como mujer. Ningún hombre merece nuestras lágrimas, y el que se las merezca, no nos hará llorar. EXCELENTE libro!

This book was an eye opener, it gave me confidence to change my approach with men. A must read! Highly recommended

This book was so easy to read and understand. Leslie Braswell speaks in it like a good friend to you but in an direct way and doesn't gloss over the behaviour of men during a break-up. It really helped me to understand that the No-Contact-Rule isn't some kind of bullsh*t. It works and that's fascinating. Mrs. Braswell define a role as a reminder that women don't forget how powerful they can act and be. "The happiest women are where the man has done the pursuing." I really recommend this book! It made me laughed just like a good friend had been sitting next to me. Thank you so much ;)!! Btw I am German and it was really, really simple to understand it :) It's not comparable to a John Gottman book or any other reference book. It's an encouraging reminder and you will get the feeling to be well-informed during or after a break-up or for a new relationship. :)