Rules for Visiting: A Novel

I very much enjoyed this book-a novel concept as one woman attempts to re-orient her life in the context of family past, her current situation and options, and a consideration of friendship. The protagonist is entirely sympathetic, the unfolding of her family history is handled well and with a bit of anticipation, and the consideration of friendship is thought-provoking, encouraging readers to consider their own. And the plant references and illustrations are a wonderful addition, tying together all the elements of the book.

Two interesting subjects that make for a good read. The author or someone she researched made the point that people make most of their meaningful friendships in their 20s and 60s. And that gardening is all about hope. I liked both sentiments and enjoyed reading this book, although thought it quite different than I expected.

This book was a slow read for me. There are some interesting lines in it and I liked the way it reflects on relationships. It’s easy to walk away from, though. I didn’t find it compelling.

I really enjoyed this book. I seem to be on a kick of reading books that center around trees somewhat, and that is fine with me. I loved learning a little bit more about each one, while May told her stories of visiting her friends. It was truly a ‘feel good’ story.

It is a sad book, but funny at times. I don’t’ think I will ever have friends as good as the ones she had. Taking trips are important, though. Some things left out - a picture of the oak tree at the end. The Oaks in Savannah and coastal South Carolina are beautiful!

First of all, sorry, not sorry, for the pun. It’s very true though. I definitely had moments when I felt bogged down in the minutiae and thought things were getting depressing, but I held on and was happy with the full circle of the story. I began to enjoy all the botanical elements and learned new things. This is a book that at times I felt I would appreciate more reading rather than listening to, but the narration was very good. The narrator disappeared into the story, which I think is the best. I wanted to give this more than 4 stars so I rounded up. Great literary and botanical references so if you don’t like books you won’t like this , but then why would you even care about this review.😉

It took me a few chapters to get into the book... then it took a few more chapters for me to begin to take it seriously. It by the end of the book, I had begun to analyze myself and what type of visitor I am. And what I expect from my visitors. And it reinforced for me the value of long term friendships. A simple and enjoyable read.

My mom read this and recommended it would be a good present for people for Christmas. I gave one of my bosses this book as well as a dear friend of mine from college years. My friend from college said it took her several tries to start the book but once she got going, it was a sweet tale.

I liked the way the author weaves her love for plants with friendships - new and old. Her observations are incisive and thought-provoking. May's journey is relatable and at the same time, unique. The book reminds us to take a closer look at our friendships and whether they need more sunshine, , or simply, a little bit of our time.

Great book

This book is a joy to read, as welcoming as a warm hug, as unpretentious as its charming narrator. You can get a plot summary anywhere if you are looking for that, but if you just want an opinion, here is mine: I was thoroughly engaged from page one, and I really loved this book.

There are no words for how much I loved this book. I grew to love the main character, May and I loved her quest to understand friendship. The characters in the book are beautiful and I loved May’s love for trees and learnt so much from it. This is a book I will be gifting to my “fortnight friends” as it brought me a lot of joy and happiness. Thank you to the author for creating this book - I didn’t want it to end and I know I will reread it many times in the future.

Great read