I Never Called It Rape - Updated Edition: The Ms. Report on Recognizing, Fighting, and Surviving Date and Acquaintance Rape

Very informative and easy to read. Excellent tool for therapy use.

This is the updated version of this book--or partially updated.First off, I'd say, if you were a victim of this sort of assault, don't be afraid to read this. It's well-written and the author(s) seem to have in mind an in-depth exploration of the subject rather than any sort of lurid recounting.Are there case studies? Yes. Are they detailed? Some of them. Will they dig up bad memories? They might. But I think they will also dig out a sense of validation, which is part of the point of the book to begin with.The breadth of this subject and kind of assault is sobering. The social insistence that rape only happens when somebody jumps out of an alley and holds a gun to your head is proven here to be absurd...but also useful to society at the expense of victims.There is an emphasis on empirical data--and quite a bit of space is dedicated to how & where the studies were done, how they were interpreted and so forth. Including statistical analysis (which you could skip with no harm done whatsoever....).There is an equal emphasis on the social picture painted by that data--and frankly, it is not a pretty picture.I believe this to be a book that should be used in high schools and certainly at the university level to help members of our society--and in particular men--understand the dynamics of assault. It becomes more and more clear that many men (and even victims) are dangerously or worse, carelessly, ignorant or obtuse. There is also an element of "acceptable" predation.Anybody can be victimized, but the most at-risk populations are also the most socially active: teens and young adults.Sadly, they might be the least likely to pick up this book.You will benefit from this book--I hesitate to use the word "enjoy"--if you are in college, if you are female, if you are male, if you are beginning to date and widely socialize. You will "enjoy" this book if you are interested in sociology, anthropology, gender studies, feminist studies or theory.I actually think everybody needs to read this. It should be at the very least in every single high school library.

A must read in today's environment. It may not be an easy book to read for some people out there, but educational. My cousin thanked me for recommending the book to her.

The book came in no time. Got a really reasonable price for the book but shipping was alittle pricey. overall very satisfied with the book

I think every teenager boys and girls should read this book before they head to colleges.So they will have a better idea how to protect themselves from being sued or raped.

i love this everthing about it

Outdated but still a bit insightful. There are definitely better resources out there.

I am going to be open and personally honest in my review. I will talk about my experience and how it linked up with what I read.I have listened to this on Audible Audiobooks and ordered a copy of the book. Its been sat in my library for 5 months waiting for me to start listening to it, when I did I had trouble putting it down.Listening to this while on the exercise bike in the gym, took my mind off the leg burn and finally understanding the reasons for so much of my behaviour that I hated.I would recommend being in a good place mind wise before reading this. I have had nightmares starting up again. Understanding what had been done to me by more than one guy, the unkind response from friends when I explained to them what happened, I never told anyone again.This book opened up my eyes and explained to me what rape is, its much different than in the eyes of my younger child self. I thought it was rape if a stranger beat you, hurt you, used your body, I didn't know it could be people you knew wether just meeting them/ work colleagues/ first date/ known them for years/ in a relationship with them. I couldn't understand why I didn't fight more or scream for help but this book helped me to understand my fight/ flight/ freeze response. I can say this book has helped me to process a lot of what I have been thought, to understand my behaviour, answers to all my questions even the ones I didn't know that I wanted to ask or how to word and to give me peace with myself. I have had flashbacks and nightmares again, but using breathing/ grounding exercises has helped. Some EMDR therapy helped me a lot also some NLP helped me to feel safer.I love the idea of the courses that have been taken into colleges to find out about people belief systems and values, even questioning my own responses to the questions asked. I loved the teaching of consent and peer pressure is rape or a sexual assault if the other person is nagging, pushing you to anything you don't want to do. It is a great idea for bringing into schools and colleges over in the UK, well all over the world. The delivery of the questions asked and the information being given is not 'this is rape', it got people thinking about their behaviours but not in a preachy way.While the original was published in 1988 not much has changed over time since then, I hope it does change with social media and recent hashtag Me too.I would recommend this book to everyone male or female, professional or just plain person. I am a counsellor and even with the 6 years of training we never covered this topic, that I can recall.