What My Mother and I Don't Talk About: Fifteen Writers Break the Silence

Book came in what looked like used condition, the cover was scuffed and lifting at parts; unsatisfied.The book itself is eye opening! Just the delivery of the product that disappointed

For any daughter (or son) who has a strained relationship with their mother. You will find for sure at least one (or more) stories that will make you feel that you are not alone in this boat! Extremely well written, very generous authors sharing deep felt stories. Brilliant work.

So many essays had me in tears but it was awesome to read from another person's experience, I really recommend it, plus, the delivery was super fast and in great shape, no complaints.

There are as many mother/child relationships as there are mothers and children, and each is unique to that child. My memories of my relationship with my mother,are different than what my siblings memories are because we come to the table with our own expectations at our own time in family history. In this collection of essays edited by Michele Filgate, I can connect to what many of what these authors are expressing. One of the essayists, Brandon Taylor writes, "I couldn't leave space for her to be a person. I think ultimately, other people aren't real to us until they are suffering or gone. That's when the imagination begins to work, trying to sort things out, trying to get them right, to understand them." That certainly has been true for me. It has been ll years since my mom died, and although I know in my heart she loved me and I loved her, I don't know that she knew how to love me, nor did I know how to best love her.In Leslie Jamison's essay, she writes, "It allowed me to see that both she and I have always been more complicated than the binaries I've constructed for us to inhabit...we get so used to the stories we tell about ourselves." I believe each of us is a story, other people add to mine and so do I.My story about my mother is still and probably will always be evolving.

“There is relief in breaking the silence. This is also how we grow. Acknowledging what we couldn’t say for so long, for whatever reason, is a way to heal our relationships with others and perhaps most important, with ourselves,” says Michele Filgate in the intro of her fantastic new curated essay collection, WHAT MY MOTHER AND I DON’T TALK ABOUT. I couldn’t stop reading—**Everyone** should read this book. As I get closer to entering motherhood by the day, I absolutely lived for these meditations on the rich, complex relationships between mothers and their children. If we’re lucky, these relationships will evolve and grow all of our lives.