Why Can't I Get What I Want?: How to Stop Making the Same Old Mistakes and Start Living a Life You Can Love Hardcover – March 10, 1998

The whole concept behind the book is about schemas, or the self-developed procedures we tend to use as defaults, even when they are flawed. This book identifies your tendencies for specific schemas, then teaches you how to modify them to be more centered and focused on how you can change your ingrained processes. Hard to follow through and make the necessary changes, but it gives you the information to do so. Changing is up to you.

I have just started reading. Looks wery well organized with the concepts.

This book is an exercise in the psychology of yourself, your schemas, and why you are the way you are or act a certain way in life because of your schemas, a good read.

This book is a great toolkit for disabling your worst. Why do so many seemingly well-adjusted, successful people struggle with their self-image and relationships? As clinical psychologists Charles Elliott and Maureen Kirby Lassen illustrate in this volume, the lifelong negative patterns that drag you down and prevent you from getting what you want out of life are related to the way you process information and how you see yourself in others. In this breakthrough book, they examine how schemas, the lenses we use to view the world, influence our perceptions and expectations.Based on the latest research in cognitive science and clinical psychology, Why Can't I Get What I Want? offers a revolutionary new approach breaking free of these negative life patters. Elliott and Lassen show how to identify the schemas that are coloring your perceptions of situations, other people, and yourself in three major areas--self worth, empowerment, and relationships. They examine the events that trigger maladaptive behavior and offer techniques to help you change the repetitive problems in your life.