Living with an Alcoholic Husband: A true account of living with and without a husband addicted to alcohol.

This book is written by a woman who has decades of experience married to an alcoholic. She finds herself and sees the exposure to an alcoholic’s abusiveness as something she cannot continue going through time with. She needed space to be herself.I would’ve loved to have read more... to see her steps and struggles as she made the separation from her husband and to know in detail what it felt like to be free, the good and the bad.Regardless, this is a solid read and a beginning point for arming yourself with experience and education, if you’re struggling. Great read. Proactive for women.

thank you Cherry Parker. I have been on this "mad" merry-go-round of life with an alcoholic for close to 8 yrs. the first few yrs I read to try to understand what my "recovering alcoholic" partner was dealing with. After far to many drunken episodes, I devoured information on how to help him. At the same time, I had to come to terms with the fact that my son was abusing alcohol. Now I am realizing that this "disease" does not discriminate & I am reading anything I can to help me get them help. I realize I need help but every thing I read focuses ironically on them. at times he is functioning, at times he is raging, at all times he is the master manipulator. the ultimate "Spinner" . I suddenly realize the verbal and emotional abuse is getting worse. a rational life has ceased to exist. He hadn't hit bottom but I had. The night I was able to summon the courage to escape & seek shelter with a kind stranger & able to ask my youngest son to please come a thousand miles to rescue me was the night I stumbled on your book, my lifeline. I can identify with just about your every word. I am far from being thru this nightmare but you helped me see that I am not insane, I am not alone. I will keep your book with me. I would encourage anyone involved with an abuser to read this.Maybe it will help you help yourself.

I read this book and felt like I was reading about my life. Most everything in this book I could relate to. It's helpful to know that others have gone through what you are going through and that the feelings and frustration are shared. This was very insightful for me and I'd find myself nodding my head in agreement as I read several passages. There's no magical answers in here; it's more of a book to help you see that you are not alone. It also helps you to understand that the only thing you have control over is yourself and your happiness. So glad I bought this book; it just helps to know that other women have been through this and can relate.

This is not a self-help book. It's a bitter and negative diatribe against a husband who was genuinely sick and died from his illness. There are no positive suggestions or hope here. The entire thing is from the wife's point of view.This might as well be an 87-page pamphlet called "HEY GALS!--DUMP THAT DRUNK!"Garbage.

Good book. Her thoughts and feelings were very close to mine. It is so difficult to see alcoholism as a sickness that one does not have control over. The author shares her feelings about this. The book is not really a self-help book, but one persons account with alcoholism. It does not offer suggestions or advice. It helps to know that I'm not alone in my own personal struggle.

Being married to an alcoholic is difficult and draining. This book allows me to see that I am not alone.

On point

This book reminds me so much of my own life. Trying so hard to help my alcoholic husband only to have him start drinking again after periods of sobriety. I'm now at the point where I want to have some peace and not always worrying if he will stay sober. This book has helped lessen the overwhelming fear I have of leaving him. It's not what I want but may be the only way to have some type of life free from the chronic anxiety. Thank you so much.

I was really interested to read about alcoholism from the perspective of a significant other as this isn't often documented.First and important to say, I have absolute sympathy for the author and I can only imagine the difficulties she had to ensure. This is not to be underestimated one bit and the strength needed to endure and survive this is something that I deeply admire. However, I am reviewing the book, not the author's situation.The difficulty I have with this book is manifold. First, it is poorly structured and reads somewhat like an unorganised rant (I will overlook the numerous typos, grammatical mistakes and editorial errors). It is just a jumble of paragraphs. Next, the author counsels 'wives' over and over again to leave their husbands, on which I am not in a position to comment but it seems, at best, repetitive and, at worst, directing all (again) 'wives' of alcoholic husbands to leave. This could indeed be very poor counsel in some instances.I am disappointed by the gender stereotypes, the lack of reference to other addictions, the absence of real insight of the day-to-day issues of having an addicted partner and, not least, the awful (and I mean awful) style. I am no book snob and could easily ignore typos, poor grammar and a 'self-published' approach. What is unbearable is the structure which makes it almost unreadable.Finally and whilst I am sure that this is not the case, the book makes the author come across as quite cold and uncaring. Again, she was in an absolutely devastating position with someone she had known for decades but where is the warmth? I won't spoil the book for those who are yet to read it but the ending really shocked me, in particular the way the final major event received such short shrift with no emotion displayed.Overall, it is your call if you spend money reading this. Go ahead and download a sample and see what you think. It certainly wasn't for me though. Two stars as the author put pen to paper (or fingers to keyboard) and made the effort to try and write a book from a different perspective. Unfortunately, it just wasn't good enough and people expect better.If the author reads this, you are certainly strong and have endured a situation which must have been catastrophic to you. Your story is of real and valuable interest to millions of people and I would urge you to enlist the services of a professional editor who could help you turn this book into something really special.

This was possibly the best book I have read recently.It gave me an insight into living with and without an alcoholic partner.It empowered me and I shed many, many tears at the end.Thank you Cherry.I am living in limbo currently tearing myself up about the decision I have made to leave my partner. This book made me realise that there are no right or wrong answers and it is heartbreaking watching someone you love destroy themselves with addition. There are no answers in this book, just honesty and reality.

I chose this book because I live with my alcoholic husband. As the author said many who have read this book say its a reflection of their own lives and my case is no different.Cherry is very direct and correct in many of her opinions.Reading her account helped me to realise that I'm not going mad and that it's the behaviour of the alcoholic that affects me and that I need to change me.

The book has some good advice but didn't flow very well. I didn't finish it as it didn't keep my attention.

Like reading my life. So many things I can relate to unfortunately. A lot of good tips on looking after ourselves. I would definitely recommend to anyone living with active alcoholism.