How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love

I listened to the Audiobook first. I wanted to do the activities, too, so I purchased the actual book :)Logan Ury, the author, has a touch of sarcasm and a great sense of humor - my taste. I love how she breaks down each topic - the way she writes and puts things together (although, I've heard it elsewhere before) makes things more understandable & relatable.After reading the book, I started online dating with the intensions mentioned in the book - I feel like I am getting results quicker (as I play the numbers game). By knowing what to think before going in, I feel more prepared.

Literally a week after reading this book I met an amazing guy! The book talks about the different dating personalities, how to navigate relationships and big milestones/conversations, and is super conversational and easy to read. There are tons of helpful examples, workbook activities and tactical steps that you can literally implement immediately! I am a huge fan of this one and now I recommend it to all my single friends!

This book offers clear, science-based advise on how to deal with different stages of finding and thriving in a relationship. From tips to get in the right focus to find a partner, to tips on how to meet them, how to decide whether to breakup or stay, and even how to keep a relationship in the long term. The practical advise/tools are very useful and the behavioral science backing them up is clear and simple.That being said, the book feels sometimes like a toolset to be used when needed. The line connecting the different chapters is weak as each stage seems to use a different theoretical approach. This makes the advise fragmented so something you use as needed rather than a perspective you can use continually. If your situation is a bit different from the one covered in the book, you might have little guidance. Also because of the lack of a common framework it is a bit hard to keep everything in mind as you read the book. Still it is useful as a toolset that covers most stages in romantic life from a rational science based perspective

I’ll start by saying that I almost didn’t buy this because it didn’t have as many reviews as other relationship books (turns out, there are a few pages dedicated to psychoanalyzing that type of behavior) but I’m so glad I did!After years of being the person who goes on tons of dates but starts with a disclaimer that I’m not interested in relationships or anything remotely serious...I recently told my therapist, “I’m actually considering trying to eventually be open to the idea of something committed. Like, maybe I’ll find some more books to read so I can figure out what that means/looks like for me.”This was a great book if you’re hyperlogical and like reading things backed by research, but it’s written also in a casual tone with plenty of jokes sprinkled in. None of the advice was “revolutionary” but it did present a lot of questions that I wanted to be asked on my journey to...well...maybe changing my mind about being alone forever.There’s also a *ton* of actionable insight for people on the other end of the spectrum - that is, maybe not so good at the initial part of dating but very interested in that long term goal of being in a loving relationship. I highlighted several passages to save as advice for my friends who don’t know how to set up dating profiles or struggle with the anxiety of first/second dates.The writing style is upbeat and funny and the author is vulnerable in a way that keeps everything from becoming condescending or insincere. Though I read the book over the course of two days, there are several pages that I bookmarked so that I can go back and maybe, like, spend some time journaling to dig deeper into what I think, what I want, and how I might approach whatever that is.

It’s exciting to encounter a book that is both immensely practical in its advice and also backed by serious principles from behavioral economics, social science, etc.!Although I’m now partnered up; until recently, I was on the dating market and I find that many things I did *well* in dating are similar to Ury’s suggestions. One part that I especially loved was her discussion of the pre-date ritual and how important it is to not have “resume exchanges” and to break the patterns that we can easily fall into on dates, where we fail to get to know the other person.Since getting the book, my partner and I actually have been reading it together and she has been sending the dating tendencies quiz to all of her friends. My partner made the mistake of telling a “Hesitator” that she needs to get out more and stop making excuses not to date— her Hesitator friend replied that dating tendencies are dumb! I’m not always a fan of typologies, but think that these tendencies do shed a lot of light on modern romance.Finally, Ury’s writing style and contemporaneous examples make this book a real treasure. For example, in the part about getting exes out of your mind(!), she warns against stalking on exes by looking at their Venmo transactions. (Haven’t we all been there??).This book is great and also makes a wonderful gift for anyone in the throes of dating or who feels like being nostalgic reading it with a current partner.

Easy read. Definitely great information for people in the dating world.

As a starter I want to say that this book helped me identify the main problem in my relationship, that being an anxiously attached person. Learning about that and all the other content in the book and the way it is explained has been a majo help in navigating my relationship and resolving conflicts in a healthy way.

A good book on dating and relationships. It is super easy to read and quite fun. I would reccomend.

Riflessioni illuminanti e pratiche

The book doesn’t only enlighten, it also gives practical examples and tools to achieve steps around relationships. Easy read and encouraging.