Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married

This book has truly opened my eyes to the importance of discussing not only with your partner about the next steps of marriage, but talking about the difficult moments one has encountered and sharing personal information with wisdom, with the aim to bring clarity, peace and unity before saying 'I do.' It is also important to understand the family you are marrying into as you aren't just marrying your spouse, but their entire household. I am so glad I got this book and look forward to going over the notes again. It's very important to get this book if you are contemplating on having a Godly married life that will last.

This book is absolutely excellent. I don't think I have ever written a review before but this book is so full of wisdom- real and practical steps so that you can vicariously learn lessons through the experience of others. Truly a great book on so many facets of marriage and things that will test you along the way, always best to be prepared with good information and strategies. Cannot recommend this book highly enough.

I bought this as a single and not yet in a relationship to prepare myself for when/if the time comes. The book is naturally geared for couples however I captured and learnt a lot of the issues that needs to be talked about, addressed asked before fully committing to your partner. I can apply some to even other relationships I have. Some things I already knew but others I would never have looked at/thought of. I will be reading it again! I recommended it to both a married friend and my sister who is engaged and they have both purchased it and find it a good read.

A great book to read for those considering marriage and that are engaged. It’s best to read with the person you intend to marry. It will bless you and raise topics you probably didn’t think were so important. It also helps you understand your character more and appreciate those with different character traits - this was my favourite part. The reflection questions were also great. I would highly recommend this book.

Out of curiosity I purchased this book to understand what qualities I would need if I decided to get married. It has had a positive impact so far and I would recommend it for those who are single and engaged. If you're single, it will act as a blueprint for you to use, and if you're engaged it will help shape some of the areas you may be struggling with. It also recommends other books for you to read to help you to grow together.

I found this book so easy to read and helpful. Although I'm not married or even in a relationship, it proved to be a very informative and realistic book in thinking about what we expect from marriage and why those I've observed from both a professional and personal basis have their struggles and sometimes endings! A 'must' read for couples and singletons as prep for the reality of commitment to marriage.

This book discusses very important topics which I think couples would do well to be aware of before tying the knot. There were things I hadn't even thought about, things I had simply assumed who would do it e.g. who would clean the toilet / do the dishes (yep, dishes have to be done lol). I learnt that love alone is not an adequate foundation, forgiveness is not a feeling, communication is key and a plan is needed for handling money, and also that it's not just marrying the individual but marrying into a family as family dynamics play a role.

Each section is super useful: on forgiveness, conflict, family, finance... Chapters are brief and have questions at the end for reflection. Great book, I keep recommending it to my friends whether they seriously date, or are in marriage preparation stage, or have issues in marriage.

Very good material for anyone considering marriage and even couples that are already married. However, it would be best to study this book prior to being married. Dr. Chapman has been providing quality material for many years. I started utilizing his material as an aid in counseling when it was on VHS. Like I said, he's been around. While this book is not an end all be all, it definitely has some great advice and insight within its pages. It works very well in conjunction with "The 5 love languages" and "The 5 languages of apology", also offered by Dr. Chapman. There are free online quizzes and other info that can also be utilized as mentioned in the book that will enrich everything else he discusses in the book. There are several applicable true to life stories inside that help you understand each point he is attempting to relay and makes for an easy read by keeping interest up. I also ordered the audio version and found it easier to listen to and take notes for self enrichment, as well as notes for guiding others into what I hope will be lasting marriages.

The author makes it more practical for readers understanding. A must read book for beginners in a relationship, yet to say I do and married couples.

Easygoing, simple and filled with examples, this book with small readable chapters are worth reading before getting married. The money well spent.

It has a simple and easy lecture which the author demonstrated his experience in helping people over the time. He proposed the 5 love languages which help a lot your relationship, not just with husband or boyfriend, but with any other person. I sincerely​ recommended it.

I initially only gave a 1 star to this book, because I unfortunately started with Chapter 3 "The saying that Like mother, Like daughter or Like Father, Like son is not a myth", which basically explains that your partner is a perfect copy of his/her same gender parent. I mean WTF? Yes we may have copied patterns, but no, we may actually just have developed the opposite habits. Now that I have read the rest of the book, I find it pretty good. It is a very light introduction into marital life problems, from not too dramatic issues (see the Chapter "Toilets are not self cleaning") to tricky one (e.g. sex). The book stays purposely superficial, but provides a list of reference books for those who want to deepen specific subjects. Therefore this book is very adapted for lovers or young married. I will recommend it without reservation, and I will offer it to my children and nephews. Actually I will read chapter 3 again: it may not apply to my situation, but may be true in certain circumstances (e.g. violent or drinking parent).