The Mistress Manual: The Good Girl's Guide to Female Dominance Paperback – 1 Nov. 2001

This is the Highway Code for serious would be FemDoms. It covers all that you may want to, think you want too and haven't yet thought what you might in the future want to do to keep you and your Sub in a euphoric state of sexual equilibrium. A great read and instruction manual.

My partner and I are reading this together and it is really helping us both to talk about our respective roles, it is giving us great ideas and is certainly a great help in encouraging us.It is also well written and informative.

This one was okay, but I felt that it suffered from the same problem as The Hesitant Mistress - but to a lesser extent. I felt like a lot of basic assumptions had been made about me, the reader, that just weren't true. I wanted a book to help me overcome my reservations about topping because I don't like the egomaniac I become when I'm in charge - a phenomenon which I've since found out is quite common (not that it helps me overcome it). The assumption made is that "you have been brought up to believe that Nice Girls don't Take Charge." I was actually brought up to believe that women are superior to men, I had to overcome that, and I wanted a book that would explain about being a mistress whilst staying nice, rather than "overcoming your nice nature" (which I don't have a problem with).There was a lot of useful information in this book and I have kept it for the information on the key fantasies, and given that this book was written in 1999 I guess the view on heteronormative relationships was probably fine at the time, but I think this book could do with an update for those of us who were still at school when it was first published, because attitudes and values have changed. It's unfortunate that this is still the best book I've found that's completely devoted to the subject of FemDom, since there are some brilliant chapters in some compendium books but this is the only one that deals uniquely with this subject without having to trawl through 200 pages of other kinks. Why does everyone say "there's loads of books on the topic" when there aren't? This book and the compendium "Come Hither" and the niche spanking book "The Adult Spanking And Discipline Handbook" are my three favourites for BDSM information geared towards female dominance which treat the subject in a good way without all the "you're being so feminist!" crap that totally disenfranchises the experience of the submissive female.

Good reference guide to get you started or to return to when you need to refresh you existing skill set

This publication has been in print a long time, indeed going out of print and being resurrected by Greenery Press. For that we should be thankful. It has some good material and was once one of the only books on the subject of being a Mistress.It is written from a lifestyle Mistress perspective, and focuses in on what the author regards as the 5 archetypes which she writes are the basic patterns of male submissive fantasies.1) The affectionate Nursemaid 2) The stern Governess 3) The harsh and exacting Queen 4) The cruel Amazon 5) The GoddessFor those unfamiliar with the psychology of male submissive fantasies, this provides some helpful insight and ideas, on how one might incorporate female domination into their relationship or sex-life, to accommodate their man's submissive desires. This is the book's strength, and the reason it remains a classic. It is though based significantly on roleplay, of "acting", and as such - can feel for some a little twee or tacky.For those wanting to tap into the deeper realms of domination, it's ritual background in ancient religion, and the "arts" practised by professional Dominatrices, I'd recommend looking at 'The History & Arts of the Dominatrix', and in particular the last section on the Seven Realm Arts - which describes what Dominatrices do in sessions, the what and the why. There is more emphasis there on the craft, equipment and scope for deeper domination, less frothy and roleplay/costume based.Still, 'The Mistress Manual' is a useful and inexpensive guide to lifestyle domination and starting point for those new to the psychology of their man's submissiveness. Recommended.

Being a new comer to this lifestyle I am enjoying the frankness and humourous style of the author.She gives an honest, non patronising view of how to develop onto a powerful Domme.Although I have only read a few chapters I am confident that I will learn practical tips as well as technical. Looking at the range of chapters anyone reading the book, will have a broader understanding of terms and 'rules' of domination.

A Great information about this subject which can help to find yourself and other ways in your sexuality. good read.

For me this was a bit too basic but then that is because I am familiar to BDSM. This would be better for those completely knew to it as very informative. I thought it might give me some fresh ideas etc but explained things I already knew about too much. Great for beginners or couples looking to inject some kinky bdsm fun into their lives but not for those who are already into it.