Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime

Julie Menanno’s book Secure Love is a great resource for any couple or person wanting to improve their relationship with their spouse or partner. Julie gives the context for why we get to where we are at, the grace to acknowledge we are each doing the best we can with the skills and knowledge we have, the understanding that often the way we react to situations is rooted in tools developed to protect us, but that may no longer be serving us, and new tools, with a new understanding, for each person to make positive changes to the relationship dynamic in a way that encourages the partner to do the same-neither vilifying either person in the relationship, nor ignoring the very real needs and feelings of each person. Kind, gentle, real, helpful expertise. A must have book for anyone wanting to learn more about what they, and their partner bring into a relationship and how to bridge the gap and work through negative cycles to forge deeper connection.

Easy read but so helpful - highly recommend

This book is amazing! very well written and easy to go through. I am reading it with my partner and we keep improving our way to express our feelings positively.

This book is a must have for people who struggle with attachement issues in their relationships. I always considered myself codependent, falling for emotionally unavailable people. I focused so much on changing the fact that I was attracted to 'those kind of people', never focussing on relationships dynamics or communication. My partner and I have now both read this book and it turned our relationship around in just a few months. and yes, it's hard work, this book is no miracle quick fix. But it's easy to understand, guides you through difficult processes step by step and is respectful towards both partners. Often avoindantly attachement partners are seen as the bad guys and anxious attached partners as the victims. But this book focusses on being a team, having respect for each individuals coping styles and personalities.

J'ai pas souvent des livres qui vraiment m'apportent quelque chose, et celui-ci est l'un d'entre eux. Je pense que ce livre m'a ouvert les yeux sur tout un monde, il est bien écrit, bien construit et très concret. MERCI