Why Mars and Venus Collide: Understanding How Men and Women Cope Differently with Stress

It is pretty obvious that men and women are fundamentaly different. And viva the difference! The things that tick women off are a constance annoyance to men and vice versa. John Grey's Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus explains why in nontechnical terms that are easy to understand. Why Mars and Venus Collide uses the same ideas to explain the reasons men and women have trouble getting along in easily understood laymen's (and laywoman's) terms. It takes the mystery out of why your wife always has a honeydo list for you--and why your husband resists it so much. Ever notice that the things that make you happy simply irrate your mate? Grey explains why.But at the same time, and perhaps even more helpful, Grey gives you ideas that will help you understand yourself and how to deal with stress more effectively and more pleasurably.As a pastor, I found these books invaluable. I use them constantly in marriage counseling--but they come in just as handy to help me deal with committees and other groups. If you have to deal with people, you need these books.

I have read hundreds of books on relationships throughout the years, and this one has to be one of the greatest. There is no preaching or analyzing or judging in this book, and so men, as well as women can understand and apply it. It is all about biology and hormones and it is so accurate! There are lists of things to do to raise the levels of oxytocin and testosterone in the brain for both men and women. The information is sensational and it works! I would recommend this book to anyone in any kind of relationship. Thank you, John Gray.

Dr. Gray explains thoughtfully from both a man's and woman's prospective, how the words we use to communicate are heard and perceived by each other. I can listen over and over.

My girlfriend recommended I read this (we're in a long distance relationship right now and the need to have to carry on a relationship over the phone can be extremely frustrating). I thought going into it this book was going to be focused on man-hating, and the first chapter kind of rambles on, but the book really did teach me a lot about myself and women. I felt pretty justified reading the thoughts and behaviors I've had in the past were really natural for men- and that I really don't have to apologize for just wanting to get to the point of a conversation or finding a solution to a problem. True to form, as the author points out men want to fulfill their woman's needs- but we need to understand a concrete the cause and effect, problem/solution. The author does a good job of explaining biological differences to provide a man some sort of rational explanation for a woman's behavior and needs.

I love the Mars/Venus books. I love that my husband and I read them together. This book is easy to understand and follow and can really open your eyes to why MEN AND WOMEN ARE COMPLETELY DIFFERENT CREATURES. Once you understand how different you are from the opposite sex, you can start to understand why he/she does what they do and why he/she is the way they are and then you can learn to change how YOU react / respond to them rather than trying to change them. Highly recommend, especially if you and your partner can read together.

I believe this book gives a great synopsis of the male/female communication styles. Understanding the dynamics facilitates much more productive conversations. I have referred several married (and single) couples to read the book and have also purchased copies for them. Many times men and women get frustrated with one another because it seems as though they are on different planets. This book helps to take a look at the bigger picture and takes physiology into consideration.

I read this book in the hopes that I would have some tools to work through a difficult time with my partner of 14 years. Although there were some good suggestions, I can't help thinking that the author knows that marriage is more bother than it is worth. I think the individuals who live a "good instead of great" life have a much better idea about quality of life.

John Gray has lots of interesting anecdotes to help those in troubled relationships. Relationships are NOT easy to be in and require a lot of work. Not the kind of hard work you might be thinking of but the "give and take", the acquiescing that is required and necessary for one to last a long time.But first things first. KNOW THYSELF. and you will then be able to know your mate through different eyes.