Mothers Who Can't Love: A Healing Guide for Daughters Paperback – 21 October 2014

The initial part of the book was so incredibly well worded, I finally felt seen. The entire first part of the book is highlighted for me!!!! The second part was tedious, mainly because there were many off-book exercises, but they were necessary. I never believed that writing letters, especially unsent ones, would accomplish much. Yet the letter I wrote brought to the surfaces many buried emotions and turns of phrases that were illuminating despite me having done inner work for more than 4 years! I didn't have much hope for the book because some of her other ones seemed like they just scratched the surface. But perhaps this is her home ground, because this one was incredible!

The reader will without doubt need immense courage and objectivity to benefit from this book. Author's experience in this area seems extensive and the exercises recommended by her works. IT WILL WORK FOR "SONS" AS WELL, as it did for me. Everything might not resonate, not all the case studies and tips mentioned in the book, but the one who has an "objective" understanding of the damage done by a mother or parent will be able to cherry pick things which apply to him/her. I am highly thankful to the author to pick up this sensitive and often discarded issue and reality of some people's lives and put it up for scrutiny. But I also wish lots of patience, strength, self-love, and courage to the readers who wish to engage with this vital aspect of their life. Not everyone will agree, even some mainstream "experts" - in my personal experience - the amount of weight this issue of parenting holds on an individual's psyche and thus their lives. Author here has steps recommended to undo the damage and create a safe distance from toxic patterns of mothers in a manner which is NOT forthright aggressive, but systematic and very thoughtful.

This book is of great use.

Wish it wasn’t so blunt about dealing with mothers who have themselves suffered. One should still have empathy for them while protecting and healing yourself.