Getting Past Your Past: Take Control of Your Life with Self-Help Techniques from EMDR Therapy

This is a wonderful book. There are no ifs ands or buts about that. And EMDR is a powerful tool. I'm a Therapist, and if EMDR was say, a pair of pliers, I'd have worn it out years ago.However, in my opinion, that is missing the main point. This is a book that brings an understanding of how negative life experiences in the past can live on and shape what is going on in the 'now' to a broad audience. It is the 'broad audience' part that really makes this book valuable. It is more than just the quite common theme, 'My "tool" works better than your favorite tool for healing' type of book. Or my theory is better than your theory.Many books on healing and growth focus most of their energy on either the 'why' or the 'how'. One of the keys to healing and growth is having a good balance: an understanding of the 'why', along with some strong tools for transformation. A good understanding of the why, with no tools, weak tools or the wrong tools leaves one strongly self aware, but stuck in the mess. Having great tools is wonderful, but without some understanding of the how, why and when you should use them, you may be figuratively using a jack hammer in an attempt to build a birdhouse. The why gives you a roadmap, the how gives you tools to get down the road. Francine does a solid job of helping one discern their own personal map and a wide array of tools one may select from in her book.The word personal is key as well. It's not handing one a map, it is helping one build their own map. It is not saying 'These are the tools.' It is providing a wide selection of tools one may choose, or not choose to apply. Tools that you can decide if they might fit for you and if so, how they work for you. One of the things with EMDR that is so notable is that as a Therapist you are not 'doing' EMDR to someone. You help your Client build a map, identify and strengthen tools. Then you help them activate their own built in healing process and stay 'out of the way' other than helping them get unstuck if necessary. I often say when I'm working 'your brain knows what it needs to do to heal'. And it does!In interest of full disclosure, I am a Therapist who uses EMDR extensively. I as well volunteer for the humanitarian organization EMDR HAP as a Facilitator: ie.e. someone who does the hands on application of skills training for Therapists who work with underserved populations.EMDR has been a powerful tool for me, both as a Therapist and on the other side of the 'couch' receiving EMDR myself. EMDR is very robust. It appears that when one experiences overwhelming events it is 'stored' in the brain in a different form of memory than 'normal' memory. Often that memory stays in that form and links to other memories stored in a similar fashion. When that memory is evoked it is experienced like it is happening now, often with the power of many other past events 'plugged' in to it. EMDR seems to tap into a natural self healing mechanism so that once an event is processed to resolution, the 'energy' is out of it.It is difficult to convey the power of EMDR I have witnessed in my Client's lives, my own life and watching as Trainees work on very strong material as part of their training. That is what Francine has done an excellent job of conveying in her book. Understanding how overwhelming events may influence our life, friends, families and others lives, and the world is important. And having the tools to begin healing, allows one to begin alleviating suffering. As well to bring forth the gifts we all possess, that seem to be 'frozen' in the bad stuff from the past that replays like a dollar night horror movie, really brings a boundless cascade of good stuff to our lives and the world.What Francine does with this book is bring the good things that she has learned about healing over the years, in re both the map and the tools, to the reader. She is intentionally bringing the healing sparks in the dark into the life of all readers, not just those who are Therapists . That is her intent with this book, to make that healing more widely available in the world. We can choose to ignore those sparks, or light them in ourselves and thus bring them to the world. They are always there waiting for us when we are ready for the light.

I've been working with a therapist on a few issues, and we've been working on incorporating EMDR into my treatment (my therapist is trained in this modality). Reading this book on loan made me realize I had to purchase my own, and I've discussed several passages with my therapist which we were then able to incorporate into my treatment.The author is the creator of EMDR and this book gives some background for the layperson and discusses how to use techniques with and without a therapist. The author reminds the reader that if they're getting into topics or memories that are painful, complex, or overwhelming, that they should consult a counselor or other psychotheraputic professional. There are several writing exercises that could be used with or without a therapist, both as a way to examine your own thoughts and give a useful jumping-off point for sessions.Part of the book that spoke most to me was the discussion of C-PTSD. C-PTSD is Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder - when the trauma was on-going and less a discrete event. Because EMDR is known so well for its use in treating PTSD from individual incidents (eg, an attack, an accident, etc) I wasn't sure how well it would apply to a more long-term/chronic issue that resulted in C-PTSD. This book helped give my therapist and me a better angle to pursue and it worked very well.I'd recommend actually doing the writing exercises when possible and making special note of standout incidents - whether you're in therapy or not. It may be worth talking to a therapist/counselor even if you feel like you have everything "dealt with", just in case there's a solution you haven't considered. All in all, excellent book and I'm so glad I read it.

This book shares so much about PTSD and EMDR therapy. You will want to read this if considering EMDR..so helpful! Glad we ordered and read.

This book was purchased as a gift. The recipient has found it to be very informative and helpful.

Highly recommend. EMDR has been a life saver for me. It's been such a useful tool that my therapist introduced me to some months ago. This book not only gave me a more in depth look into the workings of EMDR and where it comes from, it also gave me the added tool to be able to use these techniques on myself between therapy sessions.

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I’ve struggled so much these past 2 years and this book helped me work through all my hurt and trauma from my past. If you’re struggling with getting through things of your past, this book is for you

I’ve learned about EMDR first via my therapist working on my complex PTSD. This intrigued me to find out more about Francine Shapiro‘s framework for trauma sensitive therapy. In this book you’ll find many information on the topic, illustrated by plenty of examples. Based on this theoretical framework Shapiro offers a program with exercises to detect unprocessed memories as well as trauma associated cognitions and emotions that still affect your behavior. As a next step you’ll find techniques to help your neuronal system to process these memories or step by step change your maladaptive cognitions, emotions and behavior. So, in addition to the work I do with my therapist, this helps a lot to stabilize myself and get more into depth. I can highly recommend the work of Francine Shapiro.

Amazing method, amazing book. I have been recently started doing EMDR and it's beautiful. The ease of the process, the insights, the healing...simply soul enriching. It would be amazing if people were more open to this healing modality to change their perceptions, beliefs and their life. God bless everyone on their journey of healing and self-empowerment!

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This is very important book that I have looked for many years. Simply it tell us how to forgo your dreadful past experience and focus your most important future. Reading it joyful as it's well written books.

Essential reading for all I believe, to understand how any level of trauma from childhood or adulthood can affect your every day behaviours and what can be done to unravel/ process them.