Ask for It: How Women Can Use the Power of Negotiation to Get What They Really Want Paperback – 27 Jan. 2009

I normally hate self-help books but this one hit the nail on the head. Practical and clear without being condescending, it's already helped me negotiate for dozens of things I never thought I'd have the guts to ask for and achieve excellent results. If you're a woman who struggles with negotiating I can't recommend it highly enough. I've also found the process of learning to negotiate fun and that's something I never thought I'd say. Thanks to the authors for writing such a useful book.

Great book and a must read for every young girl and a woman. Teaches women to understand their value beyond what society dictates they "should" do and "should "be. Explains ideas and negotian strategies.

I got this book for a female friend who expressed a need for help in becoming more assertive. She is using the 'power of negotiation' already and feeling much more positive about herself.

Unputdownable -so glad I got this book. Shows how women from all backgrounds & stages of their lives lose out because girls aren't expected to 'go' for the things they want and need.Demonstrates with real life examples the benefits of 'asking & negotiating' skills. Gives tips on how to recognise opportunities & even on how to create them. Shows how and when to walk away too. Has a practical exercise section at the back. Already I'm implementing many of its principles & seeing the results including increased self esteem.I've recommended this book to two girlfriends

I read a review of this book in The Sunday times. I was interested in it even though obviously not a woman.In my experience people are very poor at negotiating. The only ones they do are for houses and cars and like driving everyone think they are good at it.Most people make an offer or counter offer then when that isn't accepted they threaten to withdraw or issue an ultimatum. This is the end of their skills. This works if you do not have to deal with these people again. This book is about how you negotiate with people and still retain a relationship. In my experience it is a good idea to put our feelers in a negotiation because you may learn something very early on.such as you will never get promoted or a decent pay rise because of so e even that you have forgotten about or that you did not know about. Also a lot of bosses and colleagues will tell you something that you were not aware of and you were labouring under a a misapprehension that you can either resolve or move on.This book is an attempt to teach people the skills of negotiation. the book is divided into various phases broken into four phases.It sets out why you need to ask. We spend our lives thinking that if we do a good job then good things will come our way. Unfortunately this is not the case. It starts with everything is negotiable. The example of the male students asking for teaching practice than getting in then the female students complaining that all the teaching practice had gone to the men. she answer was they asked.The men as a result got better jobs because their CVs looked a lot better.Recently an educationalist said that they should reintroduce single sex school as girls do better on their own. Boys put their hands up more to answer questions and as a result dominate the class.Men negotiate four times as much as women even a small increase on basic salary at the beginning of a career means that over whole lifetime they have earn a massive amount of money more.If I have a criticism of the book it is that there is far too much guff that is page filling examples of the blindingly obvious.All you need to do is think Have I asked for it? If not why not.None of us have aksed for enough on enough occasions.I used the example and made a lot prgoress. I am now getting lot more of what I want as a result of reading this book and I am a bloke.what do you have to lose? If you are not assertive you are looked upon as being a bit weak and soft in the head.There is a fine line between being assertive and a pain in the butt.Most of us however are far too soft.A musat read for the all the sofites in this world and that is most of us.In my expierence the underserving get most of the rewards because they are so pig headed and keep asking whereas the rest of us think we are being reasonable by not rocking the boat.Where has it got us ?

I loved the book! Now I know that I'm not alone and I could even explain my boyfriend why I can't easily ask for more money from my boss.Great book.

Just found that it was all other people's examples. I wanted more ideas and exercises to do.

This book has got too much true cases.The letters are really small and it's far too much talking about peoples lives.I'm throwing it in the bin.the cover is unappealing.I was hoping for something with more content in less words.